…Please meet Actresses Kavi Landnier and Summer Sinclair
We are proud to announce starting this week, actress Ms. Brianna Brown of General Hospital has made a commitment to lead her organization of phenomenal women from “The New Hollywood” Women’s Goal Group Inc., (which is based out of Los Angeles and New York) to spread the “Positive Words of Action” to prevent the violence of bullying with personal quotes for the up and coming book of quotes called “Compilations of Women Thoughts”. Saving Our Daughters will also share these powerful words from these women once a week from “The New Hollywood” Women’s Goal Group Inc. on the site.
“The first thing I would do if a young girl came to me… I would look her straight in the eyes and thank her for sharing with me. Nothing beats being seen by another human being. Growing up I always felt extremely alone, misunderstood and as if the weight of the world was on my shoulders. I wanted more than anything to feel safe enough to share those fears with someone, but instead I spent years just pushing it down deeper and deeper. I felt invisible and the more I chose to hide my truth the more I disappeared. Others had their judgments about what that was all about and I ended up feeling left out a lot of the time. Kids desperately want and need to be heard. The bullied and the bully. It’s so important to make sure that all children have a voice or they will try to manipulate situations in order to be heard. And if adults don’t step up to listen then these children will seek out their peers who are likely also not feeling connected to anyone or anything and the cycle escalates. I would tell my teen friend, ‘You are so brave for speaking up because holding in what hurts you only keeps hurting you. I encourage you to take time to really listen to yourself and to talk about how you feel, embrace your fears, anger and concerns and from that place of self-honesty you can take your power back. NEVER hold it in because that only feeds how badly you already feel inside and adds to your experiences on the outside. Share with an adult you trust. And if you don’t trust someone choose YOURSELF and go to a counselor at school and trust anyway. It seems so hard to just open up but the one thing I know is that not speaking up changes nothing… NO THING in your life. The beautiful thing about truth and honesty is that when you own who you are and what you believe, you invite more and more people into your life who share those same qualities. I see this in my own life…. and my daughter’s too. We all have an untapped limitless strength within us and that means YOU TOO! You deserve to be heard. You deserve to be seen. You deserve to be understood. You deserve these things not because of what you do…. you are beautiful and worthy of love and respect because you are alive. No other prerequisites required.’ “
Actress, Producer and Mother
Treasurer of “The New Hollywood” Women’s Goal Group Inc.
“Growing up, I was ashamed of where I came from, because I grew up poor with a single mom. I envied my friends’ seemingly perfect families, like the ones I saw on our tiny Goodwill black and white TV. Therefore, to compensate, I worried most about fitting in, pleasing others and figuring out how to become popular. I remember in 5th grade when I joined my first “clique”. The “mean girls” initiated my best friend Katie and I by challenging us to eat a mish-mash hot-lunch tray to join the clique. Katie refused, yet I on the other hand swallowed my pride, and the gross plate, to get “in”. The worst part is I lost my best friend because the clique did not accept her. However, these elementary popular pranksters turned out to be backstabbing, bullying frenemies. But despite the disbanding attempts of our school counselor, the clique thrived onwards into middle and high school. I continued to be part of it because of my own low self-esteem and my need for false validation, besides the fact that growing up in a tiny town of population 10,000, I felt my social opportunities were limited.
What I learned is that friends should never insult, belittle or backstab friends to get laughs in a group, or one-up you, at your expense. And, in middle school especially, insulting labels or nicknames cut deep like daggers. I lost more self-esteem by tolerating bullying insults and false rumors from my frenemies, and I lost out on finding true friends.
By the time I got into high school I discovered my artistic talents, and began to fall away from the clique to pursue my creative dreams. There is no room in your life, in your emotional sphere, for negative bullies when you start discovering your true purpose and identity. As I began devoting my energy to painting in the art room, joining a dance ensemble, and acting in community theatre, I started to discover my own unique voice. When my creativity began flowing freely from deep inside, I stopped caring so much about what others thought of me, or what pleased them. I began to think and act for myself, independent from the group mentality.
I urge all of you young ladies to explore your hidden talents and passions. Explore, explore, explore. Ask intelligent questions. The more you learn about your own capabilities, the higher your self-esteem will be. The higher your self-esteem, the lesser your need for validation. Then you will neither bully, nor tolerate bullies. Examine your own group of friends and ask yourself, “Are these girls a true reflection of who I want to be, or who I am inside?” The company we keep impacts our lives on every level. I know how hard it is to gain the confidence to stand out from the crowd, when we so desperately yearn for love and acceptance. “Dare to be different and greatness will follow you.” It’s when we dare to be different that we stop following the crowd and are able to leap into our greatest selves.”
Actress, Writer, Singer, Producer
Member, “The New Hollywood” Women’s Goal Group